Carlos...thank you for your reply. Yes, I have often thought that it would be unfair to take my son away from Japan, away from everyone and everything he knows. It would be traumatizing, and I would not do it. All I want is to be able to be in his life, to let him know he has a father who loves him. To be able to visit him on a regular basis, write him letters, talk with him on the phone, send him toys. I want him to know he has grandparents, cousins and uncles in Canada who love him very much and miss him.
Why my wife chose abduction is a mystery to me. If she wanted to divorce me, I would have let his home be Japan (since she carried him in her tummy for 9 months, birthed him and breast fed him). I just want to be his father, to give him everything I can. If I missed him too much, I would have moved to Japan and pursued my career there. But now he will grow up missing that special bond that fathers and sons have. Why would she do that to her son ? When I had the chance to confront her (on the phone) she simply said that she was selfish and she planned it all along. When I tell people this, they think I should just accept it. Of course, these were people who didn't have children themselves, and obviously don't understand the pain in never seeing your child again. I fear what she is telling him about me, and I fear that I will never see him again. But if the Hague Treaty allows me to see my son again, even if it is in Japan, I will be over the moon with joy !!!!
Sincerely,
Bill